Our oldest daughter loves the theater. She was the lead in a play a year ago and has since auditioned for multiple plays, unsuccessfully. Tonight was another audition. Sidenote: I’m so proud of her for pursuing her passion, through the ups and the downs…and mostly the downs!
Earlier today, I was getting in a slump within my mind. I was feeling sorry for myself, not wanting to do the hard things to be successful. These hard things are so far outside my realm of “safe” and “comfortable”, but they are the things that I need to conquer in order to grow.
So I was home, commiserating with a cup of roiboos tea in hand, feeling down in the dumps….and having major anxiety pressing in. It was nearing the time to leave for the audition, so I pushed through and made a few phone calls, (you know the ones that I needed to make) while doing some deep breathing. Even taking action didn’t help my mindset. I was still sitting in my gross.
Dave and I have been listening to a lot of podcasts lately….the kind of podcasts that are self-improvement ones, real estate investing or business topics. The one I was listening to was about happiness. (The Art of Charm’s first episode of 2019) So, how does one become happy? What if you’re doing something that you don’t enjoy? What if the things you’re doing are outside your comfort zone and make you feel incredibly uncomfortable?
It’s all about the mindset.
So as I was listening to this podcast, one of the hosts was talking about figuring out WHY you’re doing what you’re doing. It may be something that you actually hate doing, but what is the reason you’re doing it? Is it because you need to make money so that you can support your family? Well, that’s a pretty strong why. It might be that this is just a stepping stone for you to get to the next place. Another great why. So figuring out your WHY (and I’m sure you’ve been hearing that around for the last few years – book recommendation if you haven’t, “Start with Why” by Simon Sinek…SOOOO good!) is the key to getting through, and actually excelling and ENJOYING whatever it is that you’re doing.
Now, back to the auditions.
We were on our way home, and I was hit with the overwhelming gratitude I felt for my family. You know, there are tough days, the kind of days that I question why I’m home with my kids – why we’re homeschooling – because I’m so annoyed and fed up with the fighting and whining and just meanness coming from each person – myself included. But as I was driving home, this gratitude hit me like a ton of bricks, and those really hard things that I need to do to become successful melted away. They will still be hard, but because I have a driving force – my family – it doesn’t seem as hard.
I want my kids to be able to do dance without us struggling financially. I want them to experience trips as a family. I want to get gifts for them, surprise them with experiences, and do the extra things together as a family that we can’t right now. And if I’m successful, we can do all of those things. We can actually get ahead!
There will always be hard things in life. But it’s how we view them that really defines how we will approach them and either overcome them or let those hard things overcome us.
What hard things do you have facing you? I challenge you to break down your WHY. Figure out what it is at the very core, and keep that in mind as you face your days. I’d love to hear how this little switch in your mindset changes the outcome of those hard things you’re facing. The hard doesn’t go away, BUT you CAN make it enjoyable, and even become happy doing those things!